Tuesday, September 3, 2019

Here We Are

It's been a weird year. I used to be such a compulsive, 5-7 days a week, all-horses-all-the-time sort of person. 
I'm not anymore.

I'm ok with that about myself.
she's not exactly suffering
except from a lack of cwd boots
we fixed that problem
I've come to realize, that for me, filling my time with horses was distracting me from things I needed to address. Accomplishments with horses were making up for serious failings in my personal life. Relationships swirling around horses filled a void of loneliness that I couldn't acknowledge existed.

I've had to address all those things head on.

0/10 recommend on the process, but 10/10 on the outcome.

I have never ridden less.

I have never understood more.
this view
Zoe is amazing for so many reasons, and I have never needed her more. Instead of the horse that caters to my neurosis, she's the one that meets me in the middle. She whinnies at me when I show up and she's game for anything, whether I'm out every day or once a month.

We tried a couple lease situations and found out that while for me, Zoe is the Best Horse Ever (tm), she's not into sharing. I dropped her out of training and found out that while training is nice (and fitness is not a thing she holds on her own), life is a thing we can do together without professional help.
also sunset shots ftw
I'm committed to my career right now, so horses take a back burner. I don't have all the latest and greatest toys (uhhhhh I mean more on that later). I travel a lot, I work a lot, I ride very little.

My focus has changed--instead of my emotional health every day hinging on whether a caged flight animal performs to my subjective expectations, I take a step back. I can love my horse and be ok if we have bad days.
or if our day is "play king of the mountain" on new footing
If we don't show.

If we don't lesson.

If things aren't perfect.
pats for the best mare
To me, a good day is showing up to see my adorable baby horse. Laughing at the goofy faces she makes when I curry her. Brushing her long mane. Sitting on her broad back and knowing we're both going to be ok.

She's the nicest horse I've ever owned.

I do less with her than any horse I've ever had.
awww baby mare <3
I'm more at peace than I've ever been.


  1. Here's to good babies who make you smile. Enjoy the peace! :-)

  2. I’m so happy for you :) I’ve been discovering some of the same things with my quiet horse year this year and it’s been good for me. I’m glad for the update and really happy that you’re doing well.

  3. Such a lovely post. So happy for you. Glad you are finding balance and happiness.

  4. So lovely! and I am very happy for you.

  5. I think this is my favorite post of yours ever. What a journey you've been through since I started reading this blog. So happy that you're happy <3

  6. Being happy is the most important, whatever that means to you. I'm so glad you're in a good place, even if the road to it was not fun.

  7. I'm glad to hear this, and I hope that you continue to find peace in the process.

  8. Glad you are doing well and Zoe is just being Zoe per normal :)

  9. I absolutely love the tone of this post. Seeing your grinning face on social media has made me so happy lately. I am thrilled for you, and thrilled that the nicest horse you've ever owned has coincided with the time period where you can most enjoy her (and find balance). So incredible happy for you on every level. I do miss your constant gorgeous photos though.


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